soulpurifier asked: Hi my friend, under the tumblr url she-just, attempted suicide earlier today. could you get out the word so some of your lovely followers could send her some thoughtful messages? I would REALLY appreciate it. please.

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Only just seen this but everyone go send happiness!

Anonymous asked: I caught my boyfriend sending dirty and lovey messages to a best friend of mine. Twice I caught them, and once a couple of friends saw it and thought it best to tell me. It was months ago but I can't even look at the girl. She doesn't know I know and she doesn't know why my boyfriend's stopped talking to her all together (if he actually has stopped..). Basically what I'm trying to get at is that it happened months ago but I still can't help but get so angry about it. What should I do?

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Just because it happened months ago doesn’t mean you now have to let it go. You feel how you feel. I think if you haven’t already you need some reassurance from him that it’s in the past, you need a sincere apology and let him know he needs to earn your trust back again. A lot of girls wouldn’t have forgiven him. Rather than it being continually awkward with this ‘friend’, I’d put it to bed by actually saying something. Just approach her and explain the reasons why you haven’t been able to be around her lately - remember, you’re not the one in the wrong here, you don’t need to feel awkward about confronting her, she’s the one who should feel it. Make it very matter of fact, ask any questions you need to know and then draw a line under it. It’s shit what he’s done but for both your sakes if it’s going to work then you either need to walk away completely or try and forget it ever happened or it’s doomed to fail.

kirstyor asked: hey, i've been asked to act as the main girl in this little short film some of my friends are doing, a horror movie. the pros in my mind are that it would be fun to do and we'd have a laugh, and there'll be a talent scout watching it too (not that i think i can actually act, it's just exciting). the cons are that it'll be shown to the entire school and that could potentially be really embarrassing. i'm a bit torn, what would you do? x

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I’d say do it! You only live once and any embarrassment is short-lived. People don’t care as much as you think they do, they’re not going to ridicule you for it. Just give it a go, it’s a new experience and you might find it really rewarding. Don’t hold back just because you’re worried what other people will think, all the best things in life happen once you stop caring.

Anonymous asked: I just got out of a serious relationship that made me see sex in a different way and, not ever wanna give it away someone unless they truly love me back. But, I just recently started talking to this guy who just got out of a relationship. It's nothing serious. Neither of us have no intention of ever committing. He's the only guy that's turned me on again since my ex. I guess I'm in a "mind is saying no, body is saying go" situation. But, I wanna move on with my life and heal in a healthy way.

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It’s only going to affect you negatively if you see it negatively. There’s nothing wrong with sleeping with him providing you both know the drill, you’re careful and you’ve considered beforehand how you’ll feel afterwards. It might even be part of a way to ‘moving on’, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be. Just go at it with a positive attitude and not like you’d be fucking up. You wouldn’t.

Anonymous asked: i have feelings for my ex boyfriend and I just panicked. I started laughing and now that I've slept on it, I'm so angry with myself. I'm not even dating this guy and we basically had sex. I am extremely hesitant with getting into relationships and letting my guard down. Now I feel extremely vulnerable and don't know what to do. I don't know what we are or even what I want us to be. I feel so stupid and feel like I did something so unlike myself. i feel like a slut and just dirty and AH ):

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First off, you don’t have to be angry at yourself for sleeping with someone who you’re not dating. It’s not ideal to a lot of people, but you shouldn’t feel bad about it, it happens. As long as you’ve made a mature informed decision and you’re careful then I don’t see a problem. I’d just tackle it head on and talk to him, tell him you feel like an idiot for what happened and you were just nervous but that it’s no reflection on him or how things are between you. He might be worried he’d fucked up somehow, so he’d probably be relieved for you to at least tell him that much. Just don’t put any pressure on yourself, if you want to go there, by all means do it. If you still have feelings for your ex and you think that might be either the reason you’re doing it or the reason you’ll regret it later - don’t do it. Weigh it all up, sex is sex but you need to know first where you want to end up with it all.

Anonymous asked: I've had sex three times before, but they were all with people I had been in relationships with. I've been seeing this boy for about a month, but we haven't labeled each other as "together" or even "dating". We began to have sex last night, but I wouldn't fully label it as sex. We stopped quickly after it began because I began to laugh. L A U G H. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. I'm known to laugh when i'm upset or nervous. I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend (i'll continue)

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Will answer this in the next ask ^

Anonymous asked: So there is a girl I am currently, like shagging but to be honest I have no feelings for her what so ever, and I'm sure she has some for me. I feel like I am waiting to find a girl to be truly infatuated with I'll fall in love with and drop this one at the instant. Which seems harsh. But. Yeah is it wrong or mean to carry on with this current one? I honestly don't see myself developing feelings for her either. The sex is good but I basically want a girlfriend. Away with your verdict han ken xx

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Aw, you called me han ken, do you know me in real life or?

I think you should knock it on the head now rather than let it continue, the longer it goes on the more she’s going to get hurt and the more you’ll look like a dick, especially considering you’ll have known for a while that it’s only sex to you. She’ll be hurt for a bit but it’ll spare her in the long run if you’re completely sure you won’t ever feel anything like that for her. If you’re not that sure and you think you could possibly grow to feel something, maybe just tell her straight that you’re unsure and can’t promise anything. But to me I’d think if you don’t feel it right now then she’s not going to be the right girl for you because you’d know that already. Don’t lead her on any more or do anything simply because you feel guilty and can’t say no. Tell her to her face though, she’d probably appreciate that at least.

Anonymous asked: Hi how do i get to know this boy better,who comes everyday on the same bus as me? He always looks at me but we never seem to make eye contact,why might this be? He also has a sister should i get to know her and then him? I would like to ask him out, is that a bit cheeky for a girl?

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Facebook is your friend. It gets rid of the initial awkwardness, although we should all in theory be able to approach people like they did in the 50s and just… ask them out, it’s just not what we do these days is it? So find out his name and talk to him there first, that way when you next do see him on the bus you’ll have an excuse to smile and say hi without feeling weird about it, because you’ve at least broken the initial barriers. Then take it from there.

Anonymous asked: so his friends aren't a possibility. i can be quite shy sometimes, but other times not. when i don't want to do something, i won't. what i'm worried about is not making friends. i know everyone in the same boat as me, but when i meet english people they always tend to take the piss out of my accent, which gets annoying after awhile. to the point; i'm scared i'll be a loner foreva in a strange country!!

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First of all, I go to York University and if St. John’s is anything like it then you’ll have a wonderful time. We’re honestly all in the same position, some people live half an hour away, some come from abroad, but every single person will be in the same boat to begin with. You’re not going to be a loner, I know that seems easy for me to say now and, I’ll be honest, in my first few weeks there I felt exactly the same, but ride it out and it’ll be the best time of your life. Plus the people in York are so friendly, you couldn’t have picked a nicer place. Trust me, everyone’s out to make friends so you’ll bond with people really easily, don’t panic, you’ll look back on this message when you’re there and realise there was absolutely nothing to worry about.

Anonymous asked: this is such a different question to what everyone normally asks, but next year i'm hopefully moving to the UK (hoping to goto st. johns york) i live in ireland, and this is where all my friends will be staying. my boyfriend (who i live with) lived in york for over 5 years, but moved to ireland to live with me. he's two and a half years older than me and he hasn't really kept in contact with his friends and they'd be quite a bit older than me (i'll continue on the next one)

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Will answer in the next post.